In technical fields? All the time. It is super rare for someone to ignore your arguments or resort insulting you during a discussion.
I’ve met tons of these people. I think it’s sad the rarity this question presupposes. People like this are all over the place.
Yes, and I think I learned, in general, how to focus on anything by observing them do it. She was my first major, unattainable, love. She was just zeroed in, always, and I knew I had to learn the skill. I still can't do it to the level she does, but it's a remarkable skill to work on. Even at amateur levels, it's extremely useful.
I have met people who are able to do this, and believe that everyone can, already or eventually. Unfortunately though their willingness to do it with me never aligns, so I don't get to do this much.
I have met few people that can even accept my experience without trying to twist it into their own.
This is so relatab.. uh..
Hey, it is not good that you experience this.
Yes, and a lot of people but hardly straight off the bat. It takes a few rounds of small talk before engaging in something meaningful. In my experience, the more creative the person, the faster they will engage in a meaningful conversation, with musicians probably being the fastest ones.
Yes, I few people.
An old classmate of mine was fascinated about space and space exploration and could go on and on about it. It never was uninteresting to listen to.
Also a friend of mine. He's a pretty smart guy and has opinions on a lot of things. He also knows a lot of things about different topics. We can talk about anything and it will be an engaging conversation. I love that guy.
What is a deep conversation? I am not the most socially adept fella so if someone could clarify this would be much appreciated. My best guess is that its asking about the very personal details of someones life.
Deep engagement in a conversation and a deep conversation are different things I'd say.
Deep engagement to me is when someone starts thinking about your position as their own. One time I asked a store clerk where I can get a shovel in the store. They didn't have any, but he kept brainstorming with me what I can use as a makeshift shovel or where else I can go to shop for one. It was very engaging and nice to be part of.
One way I can describe a deep conversation is a topic that, when someone starts getting into it, the socialized knee-jerk reaction is to insult them to shut them up (unless you happen to be impassioned about it as well). Think sitcom: some quirky character waxes poetic and the others tell them to can it because the plot must go on.
I guess a deep conversation can be a personal one, although I would maybe categorize that as an intimate conversation rather than deep. Both are conversations that people usually just to ignore, avoid, or tell others to stop because they want to get on with their own lives. Usually deep conversation topics are larger-than-daily-life topics, so that's probably why
Yes.
I have a friend who is extremely intelligent, endlessly curious and was raised in a locally well-established and notoriously generous and civic-minded family. So he was raised in that milieu of sincere kindness and generosity, and whenever he's come across anything that interests him (which is seemingly something new every week) he seriously researches it until he understands it.
So it pretty much doesnt matter what the topic is - he knows something about it, but his personality has been shaped so that he's attentive and considerate rather than pedantic and self-absorbed. I've lost track of the number of times I've seen him engage in obviously mutually enjoyable conversations with complete strangers over... pretty much anything.
I vacillate between thinking that it's remarkable that he's the way he is and that it's remarkable, in a different sense, that that's so uncommon.
