Credit to https://literature.cafe/u/Janvier

Absolutely do NOT federate with Hexbear, but for reasons that have little to do with Hexbear’s politics.

I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about the Threadiverse (Lemmy + Kbin centered Fediverse), and I’ve come up with some observations that are true in August 2023 I think every new Lemmy instance should consider. I’ve split it into five parts to avoid Lemmy’s 10k character post limit.

1/5 – The Threadiverse is shrinking

There was a huge boom in Lemmy activity during the Reddit mod protest, but Lemmy and Kbin are not as mature as Reddit was when Digg dramatically enshittified. There wasn’t enough organic growth to capture the rain squall, and now the flood of users is flowing back to the ocean. It’s visible in the active user data, as well the pages of undermoderated single poster communities littering the wider Threadiverse where the last activity is two months old. New Lemmy instances continue to appear, but the total number of active users available for them to share continues to steadily decline. There’s a couple of obvious culprits for this:

Lemmy instances frequently become unavailable for unscheduled maintenance, due to operator inexperience and the rough edges of the software
Third party apps are still in beta stages or unreleased, and the interface leaves a lot to be desired, leaving many disappointed with the user experience.
Moderation tools are still in their infancy. Poorly moderated communities and inactive mods create the potential for very toxic experiences.

This does not mean the Threadiverse is failing; Reddit will continue to decline in quality, and if Threadiverse software and community continues to improve, we will reach an inflection point. Another major Spez event after that milestone will kill Reddit like Reddit killed Digg. To reach this goal, each new instance needs to bring something more to the table than extra space for fewer people to spread out in.

2/5 – Hexbear is a successful Lemmy instance

I support your account of Hexbear’s predecessor. I don’t share your background and naturally had a different experience. I think its useful to explain the history here for the benefit of other readers to better understand Hexbear’s current contrarian character, even if it is filtered through my limited experience.

Hexbear has its origins in the subreddit ChapoTrapHouse (CTH), a community that began its existence when Reddit was an open platform for fascist propaganda. Several subreddits were dedicated to mocking black people, spreading jewish conspiracies, bullying fat people, othering queer people, and sexually harassing women. My interaction with CTH was limited as a Redditor, but their participation as an antifascist group who were fighting back against those trends was a welcome presence. When the mainstream media started making a story about the racism, homophobia, antisemitism, misogyny, and the bad press threatened advertising revenue, Reddit banned the most overtly embarrasing subreddits. In an act of ‘enlightened’ centrism, Reddit banned CTH along with them. Perhaps Reddit blamed them for drawing the press’ attention, perhaps they didn’t want to be accused of being left-wing by going after fascists exclusively. But in any case, CTH needed a new address. That’s how Hexbear became one of the earliest Lemmy instances.

With several years to grow from a Reddit refuge to a full-blown social platform Hexbear has found its audience. They have site-wide movie nights where films are free-streamed and co-watched in chat. They’ve developed an internal stalinist-emoji based language (incidentally famous for causing problems because federated sites display the images at full resolution.) They have very active moderation, responding swiftly to non-party users stepping out of line with permabans. Dying communities like !anarchism are kept on life support with activity like mods creating regular general megathreads there where the community topic is irrelevant. If you’re transgender or non-binary and are looking to connect with others over North Korea apologia, there’s not a better place on the web to be.

While Hexbear is more eager to federate with others than others are with Hexbear, its size and activity proves an often overlooked point: Hexbear has become extremely successful Lemmy instance in spite of (or perhaps due to) having extremely limited federation.

3/5 – Moderation, not Federation, is the Threadiverse’s killer feature

Lemmy is not Reddit, and calling Lemmy a Federated or Open-Source version of its inspiration is doing it a disservice. Since Lemmy instances are not venture capital funded, continual growth is not the criteria for success. On Reddit, people who read, post, comment, and vote are the product, advertisers are the customers, and investors set the policy. Return on investment trumps all other concerns, and Reddit must continue to grow to be successful. Lemmy allows for a much more diverse set of definitions of success.

So the 0th step in becoming a successful Lemmy instance is deciding what that success looks like. That’s obviously up to the admin(s), but it can’t be achieved without skilled and dedicated moderators. Moderators do obvious tasks like remove spam and ban hate-speech, but they also encourage community activities, model conflict resolution, and produce content. A healthy community is a well-kept garden, and a successful Lemmy instance must include a collection of healthy communities. Moderators are the gardeners that help a community grow.

Moderation is a difficult and emotionally taxing job. I’ve alluded earlier that Reddit made an unforced error, degrading the moderator experience by killing 3rd party apps, and that Lemmy is missing those same essential tools due to its current stage of development. But Lemmy has an advantage over Reddit in there are plenty of instances where admins will listen to and respect their moderators. Lemmy’s codebase and 3rd party software is improving, and while Reddit may be able to improve their internal moderator support mechanisms, moderators will never be more than exploited rubes for them.

Since moderation is so difficult to do well, and is so essential to the Threadiverse project, the effect on moderators should be the primary concern in making any decision that changes the policy, culture, or performance of a Lemmy instance.

  • gabe@lemmyloves.art
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    1 year ago

    Oh hey! I'm the admin on this instance, this is my other one that was made a few days ago. I hope it's OK for me to provide a bit of extra context here because I feel like it might clear things up and make it clear I hold no ill will towards hexbear as a community.

    Basically, I had previous reservations and bias that wasn't really fair to attribute to this community as a whole. Being a practicing Jew online (especially these past few years, holy fuck) and attempting to engage in any space on traditional social media has been consistently a mentally taxing nightmare. It goes without saying, but Reddit never felt like a safe place for people like me. There was a period in time where the antisemitism and general hatred on Reddit (and honestly most social media..) was just so intense that I had to quit the platform entirely due to just how mentally taxing it was to witness.

    Due to being on such high alert and expecting bad faith from everyone on Reddit no matter the community, anything that was antisemitic at face value was something I took a mental note of at least prior to leaving the platform for my own well being. I don't know what it was that caused it specifically, but I had experiences of antisemitism within jewish focused subreddits that I had attributed in some way to chapotraphouse. When I was making my instance I initially had planned on it being a personal focused instance and when I heard in passing that hexbear existed as an off shoot of CTH I blocked it out of my own perceived safety. I shortly after decided to open up my instance for book and writing discussions as I am a fan of hobby focused fediverse instances.

    After everything with lemmy.world and all the issues they've had, in a matrix chat I began to participate in discussions in regards to critiquing how it feels like they are centralizing things and not taking action against it (not closing sign ups, hostility towards letting communities migrate, etc) and are more focused on rapid growth over organic sustainable growth. I saw the head admin for hexbear in the chat and was agreeing with pretty much everything they were saying and as the conversation progressed I eventually privately discussed my concerns with them and got clarity as well as realized that the bias I had towards this place wasn't fair at all.

    Later on, I discussed making an art focused instance and I let the admin I talked with know. They decided to allowlist it, and as well offered to allowlist my book focused instance as well. Inevitably I do foresee federating with hexbear within the next couple of months on literature.cafe as the platform grows, and the essay that was made above highlights my current feelings on the matter. If it was my personal private instance with myself only, I would federate as I now feel safe to do. But literature.cafe is an established community now and I didn't want to make a sudden change without getting peoples input and feelings on the matter. It's not really just my personal instance anymore, it's that community's.

    • ReadFanon [any, any]
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      1 year ago

      Thanks for adding to the context.

      I'm new to Hexbear but I've been Hexbear-adjacent for a long time, being in the orbit of chapo subreddits etc.

      I used to do a significant amount of online antifascist activism by hounding the alt-/far-right on Reddit, getting profiles banned, infiltrating private subreddits, getting subs taken down via reporting, baiting the most active far-right users into harassing me and attempting to dox me to soak up their efforts in order to divert them away from more vulnerable targets and the like.

      I'm not Jewish but from my experiences with the activism I was engaged in online, you're absolutely right that Reddit was a hotbed of anti-Semitism (of course anti-Semitism being one of the thin ends of what is effectively the wedge of fascism.) I can't speak to what the culture is like on Reddit in recent years because I had to disengage from that activism for personal reasons.

      I guess I just wanted to voice my own anecdotal experience to reaffirm what you've said about Reddit and I wanted to let you know that, although it can be extremely isolating to be exposed to that stuff or, worse yet, to be personally targeted by these groups online, there are people out there who are actively involved in rooting out virulent anti-Semitism in social media spaces.

      Unfortunately most of that work goes completely unseen and accounts or online groups often get banned weeks or months after the fact, and it's not like you'd get notified of when and why it happens. They just get disappeared into the memory hole. And of course the people who are doing this work aren't reaching out to folks like yourself to let you know what work they're doing because that would come off as self-aggrandizing and it can compromise the work being done, not to mention the fact that I'm assuming a lot of people who are exposed to hateful discourse would prefer to just move on with their lives and focus on positive things rather than dwelling on the bullshit and having extensive conversations with internet strangers about hateful garbage on social media.

      So, as isolating and maddening as it can be, I just wanted you to know that you aren't alone and there are individuals and groups who are actively working to snuff out anti-Semitism online. (And if you feel enraged by what gets permitted to be posted online—rightfully so—remember that there's a good chance that someone like myself has likely been monitoring that particular account that you've encountered and it's likely that person has been consistently outraged at the continued inaction and the "we have investigated your reports and found that there was no violation of our rules" messages from moderators/admins while trying to push moderators into taking action to protect the community from hate.)

      • gabe@lemmyloves.art
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        1 year ago

        Yeah, shit on Reddit is bad. The prevalence of antisemitism on there goes in waves from what I have seen, always ebbing and flowing but becoming significantly worse during the existence of prominent hate subs. Probably the absolute worst time was around the both before and during the era of the Charlottesville fascist riots and their terrorizing of the Jewish community there and when The_Donald was at its peak. Those were when I really had to fully disengage for my own mental health because it was just so intensely unsafe being on that site.

        And absolutely, I value much of the activists and the work they do so much. In the past year alone and as I've gotten more involved in the fediverse (and for the first time ever online feel comfortable to actually assume good faith in people and in discussions, which is crazy to me) I have been to able to realize I am a lot less alone than I have previously thought which I am exceptionally grateful for. But, being in the moment of dealing with the barrage of hatred weighs on you heavily. It goes without saying, the stress of being pretty much any kind of minority quite literally eats away at you, both mentally and physically. It's just hard to describe the feeling of how incredibly isolating it is when stereotypes and hateful statements are given legitimacy on social platforms positioned for "civil" discussion. My right to exist as a human being a topic of debate for people and actively bearing witness to the Overton window shift is incredibly distressing and tiring. And then having the fact you feel distressed by it be completely invalidated by others saying you're an alarmist or overreacting just adds salt to that wound. There comes a point where you genuinely just can't deal with it anymore, you just don't have the energy to be hyper-vigilant in digital social spaces and for your own personal safety you have no choice but to assume the absolute worst of everyone you are interacting with if you decide to stay as a spectator.

        • JuneFall [none/use name]
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          1 year ago

          Those were when I really had to fully disengage for my own mental health because it was just so intensely unsafe being on that site.

          I would like to add that you used the magic word here. If you do a comment with the single word disengage on hexbear the person talking with you is supposed to disengage and not further comment at that chain of comments. This can be helpful. Feel free to report (doesn't have to be extensive text) when people disregard that (which is punished swift and decisively in my opinion) or if you don't feel welcome.

          That said there might be some topics in which some users express opinions I wouldn't like to read and they don't like some I write. Still the site's user base is held to be against antisemitism, though what they means varies a ton.

          Your instance and lit cafe are two lemmy's I like quite a bit and was really fond to have encountered them. Thanks for creating and keeping up some cultural spaces!

        • ReadFanon [any, any]
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          1 year ago

          When I was engaged in my online activism on Reddit, which included the circa-Charlottesville period, shit seemed to be much worse. They've definitely cleaned up a lot of the worst subs although I have no doubt that the prevalence of anti-Semitism on Reddit persists despite that fact.

          But, being in the moment of dealing with the barrage of hatred weighs on you heavily. It goes without saying, the stress of being pretty much any kind of minority quite literally eats away at you, both mentally and physically. It's just hard to describe the feeling of how incredibly isolating it is when stereotypes and hateful statements are given legitimacy on social platforms positioned for "civil" discussion. My right to exist as a human being a topic of debate for people and actively bearing witness to the Overton window shift is incredibly distressing and tiring.

          Yeah, I feel you.

          While I wouldn't be at the very top of their "To Exterminate" list, I would be pretty high up there due to a few personal factors and if it's really distressing for me personally knowing that there are people openly pushing for the extermination of Jews (on the basic level of humanity as well as on the level of knowing that, essentially, I'm next) then I can't imagine what it's like to be the direct target of this rhetoric.

          And then having the fact you feel distressed by it be completely invalidated by others saying you're an alarmist or overreacting just adds salt to that wound. There comes a point where you genuinely just can't deal with it anymore, you just don't have the energy to be hyper-vigilant in digital social spaces and for your own personal safety you have no choice but to assume the absolute worst of everyone you are interacting with if you decide to stay as a spectator.

          Yeah, that's that secondary, passive sort of racism where people will just ignore/deny the dogwhistles and "give the benefit of the doubt" to the user who has ⚡⚡ in their username and is commenting using (((echo brackets))), which can add to the distress so much because of how isolating and crazy-making it feels.

          I can't say I blame you for having to disconnect from this stuff.

          • gabe@lemmyloves.art
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            1 year ago

            I know people who were directly impacted by the Charlottesville riot as well as people who were actually there who had to bear witness to watching Heather Heyer getting murdered. It was a trauma that had a direct ripple affect across the entire American Jewish community, especially since that area is such a big hub of Jews in that area of Virginia. It was so impactful to a lot of American Jews not only because many Jews actually had some degree of connection to someone who experienced what happened there, but it was also an inflection point for many gen z Jews who hadn't really bore witness to such an intense public celebration of our peoples hatred before. Like yeah, we knew that people hate us but when Charlottesville happened and then hearing the president afterwards say "good people on both sides" was just an indescribable feeling. It was a moment of realization of "They don't just hate us. They want us dead, and our own president just defended them in spite of that being made clear. What the fuck? Am I actually safe here?" And after when Pittsburgh happened, it just echoed that feeling even more.

            It was so impactful that for a lot of right wing leaning young (Ashkenazi, primarily) American Jews it was made crystal clear for the first time to them that the American rights support of Jews is not just conditional, but their perceived whiteness is conditional as well. Their acceptance as "white Americans" can be revoked extremely easily. That fact made a pretty high amount of Jewish gen z-ers fully reflect on that and swing dramatically to the left politically.

            Knowing all that and having talked with the people who were ran out of their synagogues back door with their torah scroll clutched in hand for their own safety and having to go into someones house to literally hide from nazis threatening them and then later witnessing the shit people were saying online about it was just too much to deal with. What has rattled me the most even after all these years that is almost never discussed online or really highlighted at all is that we are extraordinarily lucky more people didn't die. All it would have taken was one slightly different decision on someones behalf for that entire situation to have turned into a genuine massacre. It's really hard to emphasize just how close that incident was to turning into a mass causality event, and the quick thinking and actions taken to diffuse and protect their community by community leaders in that synagogue likely saved so many lives both in that synagogues community and outside of it as well.

            Knowing that fact and having to witness the conversation unfold online was honestly sheer hell to deal with mentally tbh, I quite frankly felt like I was losing my mind at times watching people talk about it. Which granted is probably the point, make you question and second guess yourself to invoke that sense of terror

    • Awoo [she/her]
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      1 year ago

      Hi Gabe

      I just want to point out something that was mentioned by this user:

      The Shit Reddit Says (SRS) movement saw the positive potential of this tactic, and built several subreddits dedicated to calling out misogyny, homophobia, and racism on the site. At that point Reddit began listening to brigading complaints and built anti-brigading measures like a link style that enforced non-interaction, and threatening to ban subreddits that linked interactively to comments or encouraged bullying the posters in their original context.

      It's amusing that this is brought up, because several of us here ARE the SRS movement. Both as users and as moderators.

      It is quite interesting to me that a historical project of some of the people here is held up as a positive thing when it had no marxism present, but we are held up as a negative thing when the marxism is present. Very interesting!

      5/5 – Caveat Federator

      Hexbear’s success isn’t the only example of federation being over-rated. BeeHaw caused controversy by defederating from sh.itjust.works and lemmy.world to protect their moderators’ sanity. Two months on, it is obvious they made the right descision for the right reasons. A number of positive contributors joined precisely because they took this bold action. BeeHaw is currently the second fastest growing server, and has become an instance with a unique character and community that attracts positive participation from across the Threadiverse.

      Federation creates the potential for a diverse variety of instances to independently find their voice and niche. Ironically, premature federation with larger instances can overwhelm a new instance, washing away its unique character or preventing it from developing an identity in the first place.

      It’s commendable you’re seeking feedback from your users on the decision, and I’d suggest you continue to be open about your politics and preferences. You’re not going to please everyone, and it’s important that you grow a community that you feel welcome in and are supported. Your commitment to the principle of federation or the diversity of the political discourse here isn’t going to matter much if you burn out and have to shut it down.

      You obviously have reservations about federating with Hexbear. Regardless of what the current consensus appears to be, don’t do it. In fact, consider defederating from other large Lemmy instances too, at least until you’ve built a stable community with experienced moderators, and you all agree the moderation technology is now up to the task. You may lose some current users, but you’ll attract others who agree with your decision and are more supportive of the kind of community you’re trying to build.

      I agree that formulating an instance identity is essential to instances having success. You can't just be a reddit clone and magically succeed without providing more value in some way, an emotional reason to be on the instance, a brand, an identity and culture that the users enjoy. This however is not something that is prevented by federation. Communicating with your userbase and building collaboratively is what creates it. Having users add to the site, contribute emojis, collaborate on policy, back and forth over things, build a history, these build the identity. None of this is prevented by federation. In fact it can be benefited by it, if you build the relationship with us (and others) in a positive way.

      It's not really just my personal instance anymore, it's that community's.

      This is how unique community identities are constructed. Collaboration. It forms a strong bond and people become invested in something they feel like they helped to build.

      • gabe@lemmyloves.art
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        1 year ago

        It’s amusing that this is brought up, because several of us here ARE the SRS movement. Both as users and as moderators.

        That makes the discussion all the more interesting. Like you said, it's kind of interesting 👀👀👀👀 how people are extra averse when Marxism is thrown in.

        Something that is interesting to me that I think is a point to add... a large portion of right leaning/enlightened centrists/"no labels" folks from reddit seem have a bit of a habit of flocking to giant instances and seem to be those who are the most actively hostile to spreading across the federation. Especially on instances with no registration approvals. If lemmy.world wasn't as big as it was, I would have likely contemplated blocking it as it has been the only place I have witnessed outright antisemitism outside imploding-heads (rest in piss lol). From what I have witnessed though people are spreading out around the federation with lemmy over time, and overall the users who just want Reddit 2.0 are calling it quits and going back because they realized they are never going to get it. Which in my opinion, good. We can make something better here. I might have my qualms with lemmys current software backend but the focus of removing the algorithmic rage aspects that was consistently apart of Reddit is commendable by the lemmy devs. The inherent features to make things toxic could be much worse than people seem to be willing to realize, and it seems the devs are being very mindful of that fact.

        • Awoo [she/her]
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          1 year ago

          a large portion of right leaning/enlightened centrists/"no labels" folks from reddit seem have a bit of a habit of flocking to giant instances and seem to be those who are the most actively hostile to spreading across the federation. Especially on instances with no registration approvals. If lemmy.world wasn't as big as it was, I would have likely contemplated blocking it as it has been the only place I have witnessed outright antisemitism outside imploding-heads (rest in piss lol). From what I have witnessed though people are spreading out around the federation with lemmy over time

          In my opinion what Lemmy lacks right now is diversity of cultures across instances. This is largely because these waves of users are the first major waves of users other than leftists who were part of the first purges by reddit (details here). The original culture differences between instances come from Lemmy trying to be neutral (for growth), Hexbear being dirtbag-left and left-unity, lemmygrad being hard marxist-leninist (anti-anarchism not fitting in with hexbear crowd) and Beehaw being an unknown factor that was promoted and helped by the lemmy team for the sake of establishing a liberal foothold so future waves wouldn't be completely alienated. Other than this pretty much everything is new from the reddit waves caused by third party apps.

          The lack of culturally unique and diverse places is a weakness that will only be rectified with time, with support of the spaces doing a good job of creating unique identities. This will set the platform up to be stronger when the inevitable next large event occurs causing significant waves of users. (and we know it's inevitable because we know the IPO will fuck reddit up even more).

          As for the huge central pots... I don't actually think they're avoidable. These are caused by two factors, the first is as you say - people who just want their content - this group just wants slop, and will churn off the fastest as they can't find all the slop they need here because it doesn't have and can't be expected to have a hobby space for everything under the sun + porn (more than half of reddit). The second group of course is those who view the wider federation as an ideological battlescape, in which to wage an ideological war for people's minds. The fascists have won round 1 of this by getting the marxists defederated from a bunch of places, these people view participation in the largest space as if it were participation in an information warzone, it is a theatre of operations to them. They will migrate to lemm.ee and other spaces though because the anticommunist objective of getting marxists defederated isn't enough, they also need to wage information war in the spaces we're still federated with. This will stretch them thin because they'll be maintaining accounts on multiple platforms and ultimately increase burnout in their activities.

          These people are probably best deprioritising for the time-being. Be mindful of the second group's existence and on-guard for the concern trolling and sealioning that will be present and almost constant from them. In the meantime the main priority is to get communities that appear to understand how to create unique community cultures to WORK TOGETHER. These communities, despite ideological differences between them, are being staffed by people who have some sense for community management and collaboratively constructing something. If they can get over the ideological nonsense then there is a mutually beneficial thing that can be worked upon between them all and that is creating sustainable growth for lemmy as a platform and building up stronger networks for capturing future user waves. On top of this, finding the right attractions to get user-growth without such waves. At the very least enough user growth is needed to outstrip the user churn, which will be a persistent and forever-problem as it is for all online communities.

      • kristina [she/her]
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        1 year ago

        i usually lurked on reddit, but when i did post, it was srs (and not sexual reassignment surgery) stuff. frankly didnt even post much on chapo, just glanced at it. i generally loathed posting on reddit because id have to deal with a bunch of weirdoes in my replies in any subreddit, everyone really wants to argue about everything there