This is a universe with faster than light travel and near infinite resources. There's a homeless shelter in one of the major cities. I helped them out. Why the fuck is there a homeless shelter in a universe with FTL and near infinite resources?
I'm starting to think Fallout under Bethesda isn't a satire and their writers are just incapable of imagining anything beyond capitalism.
Did you try Space Engine? Sounds like something that might be for you as it's aiming for maximum realism. The spaceflight part was kinda underdeveloped last time I played it but you can fly ships if you want to.
Also Elite Dangerous has realistic distances between planets too.