Say you went out on like 2 dates and said person was too clingy and you ghost em, now you might have to face them due to work. Apologize or not? And if apologize, do it preemptively or upon meeting?

Also generally as a moral stance should you??

  • shapis@lemmy.ml
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    1 year ago

    I've only ever had one date in my life that went bad. I had a feeling I was about to get ghosted so I asked her to like. Lemme know why it went so bad from her pov. It was an interesting conversation.

    If they bring it up just be honest with them.

      • shapis@lemmy.ml
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        1 year ago

        This was forever ago. But basically we both drove to a mall for I think sushi and a movie ?

        The conversation during sushi went swell but during the movies I could tell she was sitting farther away from me than she had to.

        On the way out I asked her if she wanted me to walk her out and she said nah. I was taken aback it was late at night. And was like. Are you sure ? She said yes so we parted ways.

        I remember thinking man I'm not sure what I did wrong. That whole thing usually works. Lol.

        Once I got home I messaged that I apologized if I made her feel uncomfortable in anyway and asked her on her end what went so wrong.

        She told me during the movie / on the way out she thought I might attempt to kiss her. And she wasn't feeling that way. I thanked her for being honest and that was that.

        I wouldn't have tried tho. I was fully aware that things weren't going ideal. But yeah. Thats the story.

  • flashgnash@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    Morally, don't ghost in the first place and apologise if you have regardless of if you're going to run into them, that's the mature thing to do

  • Flyberius [comrade/them]
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    1 year ago

    I did this with my old best friend. I eventually apologised because the guilt was invading my dreams. It let me at least explain to him why I had to cut off all ties. We met one out two times since then but sadly the reasons that made me cut off contact have not been resolved.

    But yeah, if it will make you feel better, I suggest doing it

    • SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      1 year ago

      Probably would help with my guilt but that sounds like a selfish reason to do it. (No offence intended to you, your friendship was clearly more serious and it sounds like a reasonable decision there).

      • Flyberius [comrade/them]
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        1 year ago

        Well it does have the double benefit of hopefully making them feel better. Either way it's worth a shot.