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(Ik wil het niet leren / ik wil het kunnen.) I.e. I don't want to learn it, I want to be able to do it.
Sucking at something is the first step towards getting kinda good at something.
extra painful when you have stuff you are instantly good at, like give me an arbitrary computer/technology related task and i'll figure it out within the day
so trying things and sucking at them just feels like when games lock skills behind specific classes
When I'm teaching basic art stuff, I usually try to explain that your initial things will be bad and take forever, but you should really try to focus on the process. Not really sure how to change how people feel about themselves. :/
I believe people tend to be like this when they first start having hobbies later into their life.
For instance I played guitar when I was 10 and I sucked for a good four or five years but now I'm decent.
When I started learning piano I was very aware at how much I sucked but I had the wisdom now of knowing that it would take long to become good at piano.
I think people who don't have that early introduction to skills and crafts struggle with impatience from not understanding that everything takes time.
I'm like this too from a combination of being a gifted kid in the 90s and being neglected by my parents. There's starting to be more recognition that the very high above average kids need as much support as the very low below average kids, but it used to be just a nice break for the teachers because they just put you in the corner with a book and considered it as one less kid to worry about. So you go through life being instantly good at everything that is expected of you, and then when you have to actually apply yourself, you haven't learned any skills for dealing with frustration and disappointment at all. I've become better at it over the years but it definitely still impacts my life.
Its why i avoid doing things like makeup, hair, and really nice clothing. I just don't want the embarrassment of screwing up and looking horrendous and making this worse.
