"So to preface this is posted in literature.cafe’s meta community but this question is primarily aimed at generally anyone in the lemmyverse who is NOT a cisgender man no matter what instance they may be in. The purpose of this thread is to present a stage for conversation for those willing to contribute, and although cisgender men are not excluded I kindly ask you to be mindful of the fact what this thread is meant for and try to avoid talking over others here. If you are a cisgender man interested in learning and seeing how lemmy can improve like I am: welcome. For those who are here to cause issues or talk over others though, you will be promptly removed.

I do not know the demographic data of lemmy, but I would wager a large portion are male. And over the past few weeks I have witnessed women on numerous occasion discuss their discomfort on here. Reddit very much had a very “bro-y” feeling culture for many, that felt like a barrier to entry to many women. With lemmy, there’s a potential to break this. But the answer really is how? Lemmy has begun to develop into its own culture already independent of Reddit quite rapidly, and it’s been awesome to see but I am wondering if there’s a way we can push it a step further and implement ways to make the platform more welcoming to women than Reddit previously did.

Thoughts?"

  • silent_water [she/her]
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    10 months ago

    fearless, ruthless moderation - tone-policing and concern trolling deserve the axe. it's good to ban overtly abusive stuff but the site culture gets extremely toxic if shitty behavior is allowed to be couched behind 'just asking questions' and the like. also, cishet dudes drooling over sexualized images of women drives us away. hexbears answer for this is the volcel police meme - it has its problems as it's also easily deployed against people who aren't cishet men, but it does serious work in keeping the site welcoming to women.

    • BolsheWitch [she/her, they/them]
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      10 months ago

      i do love that the mods here ban sealions and debate bros. it’s hilarious seeing one of them purged in the mod log lol

    • skeletorsass [she/her]
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      10 months ago

      Yes. I will leave a culture which is dismissive or unfriendly or perverted. Life has enough of that. A culture which is respectful and friendly and will not tolerate perverted people makes me feel safe.

      Even without harrassment Reddit is a very negative place. You can not be wrong or not know the information. It is not a nice place.

    • VOLCEL_POLICE [it/its]B
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      10 months ago

      Show

      The VOLCEL POLICE are on the scene! PLEASE KEEP YOUR VITAL ESSENCES TO YOURSELVES AT ALL TIMES.

      نحن شرطة VolCel.بناءا على تعليمات الهيئة لترويج لألعاب الفيديو و النهي عن الجنس نرجوا الإبتعاد عن أي أفكار جنسية و الحفاظ على حيواناتكم المنويَّة حتى يوم الحساب. اتقوا الله، إنك لا تراه لكنه يراك.

      volcel-police

    • TawnyFroggy [she/her]
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      10 months ago

      Yep. Same way you keep fascism out of a place. Zero tolerance, no second chances.