It's 100% untrue. Men are beautiful. You are beautiful. Believe in yourself and remember that the most attractive thing in the world is a kind heart and that starts with being kind to yourself.
Don't let the world make you feel ugly, they're just trying to sell you shit.
yeah i had the exact same experience. I still sorta dress like shit lol, but I've been trying to dress better.
I also think, at least for me, there was this recognition that the type of people around me who were into fashion were very bougie, and you needed money to be into fashion. So I decided to dress like shit as a reaction to this, since the only way I could see to interact with fashion was through a bourgeois perspective (of course I wasn't able to explain it in those words). Now that I've had more experience, and have embraced Marxism, I understand how to interact with fashion outside of this bourgeois perspective better.
And then of course there's the idea that, as a man, you're not allowed to care about what you wear. Like if you do, you get mocked by your friends, and no older men around you can give you guidance since most of them had the same experience. So you just end up dressing like shit b/c you don't want to seem less of a man and get mocked by your friends for caring about fashion, and then there's really no one to help teach you how to dress. Socialized into dressing like shit
Yes absolutely!
And we can mock r/malefashionadvice because it's faaaaaaar from perfect, but it's a space that's actually really helpful to clueless people exactly in our shoes (and it seems like there's a lot of us), who can really just benefit from the basic stuff and learn what the "standards" are so you can then figure out how/why/when you might want to deviate from those. And credit where it's due, the regulars are actually pretty trans-positive plus also supportive of people experimenting with more "feminine" clothing styles (and pretty good at banning all the blow-in transphobes).
Something like that but without the r*ddit would be pretty cool I think, alongside threads for stuff like "I thought I looked good today, here's a non-doxxing pic"
haha yes definitely frequented malefashionadvice a ton a couple years ago when I was trying to get a handle on how to dress well. Glad to know they're pretty solid over there. And they do have a ton of great resources
If you know how to sew, taking in clothing to better fit your form can seriously make a world of a difference you won't even believe, and it costs a grand total of about $0.47 cents. If you don't know how to sew, you can learn hwo to sew by hand in probably an hour, and its a great repetative monotonous meditative thing if you're into that sort of stuff. Sewing by machine is quite a bit harder, but 20x faster or so.
I re-sew my cuff buttons to fit my wrists better cos it's beyond easy, but with stuff like putting darts in I always feel like I would do it wrong. Having a tailor do it also gives that confidence that a second person (who knows what they're doing) thinks the proportions etc are right. But I 100% agree that getting stuff tailored was like magical witchcraft for making everything look a million times better, and even the cost of getting a professional to do it is pretty low compared to the cost of new clothes.