It's 100% untrue. Men are beautiful. You are beautiful. Believe in yourself and remember that the most attractive thing in the world is a kind heart and that starts with being kind to yourself.
Don't let the world make you feel ugly, they're just trying to sell you shit.
You can get help from others too, but your personal attitude is critical. Get that doomerism out of the bloomer comm, friend.
Regarding you're claim that this is bootstraps, this isn't about fixing or excusing systemic poverty. It's about personal development.
I know a short Asian guy who had similar laments to you. He still got a girlfriend, and he has a loving and confident attitude.