Because the mods are people too and have limited time and energy and interacting with someone who has shown a lot of bad faith in the past is difficult to ignore

I have put a lot of time into this issue, are you talking about me? and if you're talking about caden, a personal apology was made and given to someone to forward to him.

this has all happened in less than hour, I dunno how fair it is to act like I didn't care to ask you when it was a case of me seeing a comment first and replying to that, I was trying to sort out other conversations and as far as the shork server goes, I have talked to people who have came from their about how difficult it is for me to split focus in a conversation with a group that big, a fact which was also disrespected and not communicated to members of your community.

I wasn't online much if at all yesterday and I don't read back every channel when I do get on, if you don't communicate that you feel unsafe to us then we can't correct for it, I haven't banned anyone for talking to me in my dm's, Marie's post and account was banned because she was one of the first people to engage the mods in bad faith, even before any of the events regarding zara happened.

I don't think it's unreasonable to ask the person who just brought up that concern to talk to me or Jess, unless you're saying that there's a level of coordination to where it won't matter who I talk to

I literally don't, I haven't seen a Mrs.pacman or a limabean account on the discord, I don't understand what's keeping you from messaging me when what my account is on discord is very obvious.

okay but we have to know what your concerns are if you want us to take action, like part of the reason why this stuff spiraled out into a mess is because anything that was said was said in public and in a very general way and not so much directed at talking to us than it was talking about, so please, dm me about this, preferably on discord.

Have you tried to talk to Jess or I about this yet? Despite what people are saying we do want this place and the discord to be safe and comfortable for trans comrades.