One of them Carpenter nerd types.
The bundle of myst games was on humble bundle a week or two ago. I've been waiting for the right time to immerse myself in myst VR and be just as confounded as I was as a kid. Then I get to see if Riven is still completely impossible for me.
It seems most people don't care. I just happened to have one from discord/steam/twitch which is the only reason it's on here.
Know that you're not alone. I have many mtf friends who are going through the same thing. It's interesting to me that there is such a violent reaction by some partners, and for the reason on this one of 'trying to make her lesbian' is not the reasoning I think most people would consider after being in a nearly 2 decade long relationship. It strikes me as odd especially because people don't generally suddenly become trans. There must have been clues along the way that she either ignored or somehow missed. I've seen a few of your posts and it seems you have many many more questions about yourself and how to exist in the new world of you. The only advice I have for you is to slow down a touch and put some heavy thought into you, what you want, and why.
I can go deeper, but don't really have the time atm. As for your hair situation, wigs are always a option for hair colors you may not be optimal for, and if that's a bit much, you can try to get your hair professionally dyed. They would likely be more knowledgeable.
Know a streamer in her 50's. She's doing so much better mentally and physically after she started transitioning.
I've learned many things in life, but the single most important lesson has been to appreciate your mental health, and to take as much care of it as you can. You never know if or when it will leave you, but I can promise you that it's not worth being miserable if you can do anything to avoid it.
Sincerely, one who is married to a paranoid schizophrenic who didn't start out that way. Watching the descent and aftermath has been a chilling lesson in life.