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Cake day: July 9th, 2023

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  • Your lack of concern for others around you isn't something to be proud of or excused by cultural norms. Enjoy children however you want, don't impose them on others - is that so hard to do?

    And moving the conversation to if I like kids or not is not going to help. Regardless of anyone's personal preference, you are still offloading the responsibilities of a parent on to other people. And if you want to do that, then you should be prepared for the fact that those other people might not be as good at parenting as you are, and might leave those kids scarred for life.

    Some cultures still beat their children. Would you agree for those kids to experience being hit with a belt, just because they're annoying? After all, if you really believe in this "it takes a village to raise a kid" crap, I hope you're okay with the village bully contributing some life lessons as well. Because if cultural norms can excuse laissez-faire bad parenting, they can also excuse abusive bad parenting.

    Or just parent your kids yourself and don't give others the responsibility of parenting them, and then you also won't give them the power to leave the kids traumatized. Simple enough.


  • I will ruin something for those around me, and it's their fault because they didn't prepare in advance

    I can take a decently large amount of annoyance, but past a certain threshold, "society" can go ahead and be prepared to have its kid go home having learned some new phrases like "mommy's a removed and daddy is tired of her shit so he's an absent parent cheating on her with the ugliest coworker who would have him", or "you're part of the 1% that make it through the condom and your parents are so sick of being stuck with you that they don't even try to parent you anymore, they just wait until you're 18 and can legally be kicked out so they can enjoy life again".

    Oh, but maybe "society" has advanced to the point where it can get the kid some earplugs or headphones.