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Cake day: January 15th, 2024
  • TarantulaFudge@startrek.websitetoScience Memes@mander.xyz•I don't trust like that.
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    2 months ago

    They're all vicious assholes that get irritated by the most mundane things so I'm gonna expect them to sting me and they have for no reason that I could tell... Also these look like yellow jackets, which are particularly annoying but not as annoying as the 4 species of hornets battling for territory around my old house. I think bumblebees are cute though they will boop you and not try to kill you.

  • TarantulaFudge@startrek.websitetopolyamory•b2b breakups gotta be my favorite part j.j
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    3 months ago

    When it rains it pours. I'm sorry that you had a rough time. Breakups do tend to cause some fallout and that's not uncommon.

    A good way to insulate yourself is to date outside the polycule whenever possible and avoid dating people's support structures (friends/family). Set some realistic boundaries for yourself. For example, I know sharing multiple partners with the same person is hard for me so I choose not to do that.

  • TarantulaFudge@startrek.websitetopolyamory•Is the polyam community at large feeling more ethical or less ethical to you lately?
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    3 months ago

    I think there are a lot more younger inexperienced people trying various types of polyamory. Probably leads to a lot of mistakes and bad taste in people's mouths... I've found that most people under 25 don't really know what they want. I've also noticed that younger generations tend to be partnered super early in school and don't really know how to be alone. Even to the point of taking fake relationships just because that's what everyone else is doing.

    There are always gonna be shitty people, monogamy or no. Some people take advantage of polyamory as an excuse to ignore ethical responsibility. I always preface that I practice relationship anarchy that looks a lot like ethical polyamory (even though polyamory is already supposed to be ENM).

    People seem to think that polyamorous people are always available. One of my partners has this problem but I personally enjoy watching them rip ignorant people a new asshole.

  • TarantulaFudge@startrek.websitetopolyamory•[Looking for Support] When to walk away?
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    3 months ago

    I'm sorry that you had a rough time. It's okay to feel jealousy and it can be a great tool of change when you are feeling unfairly treated. Sometimes it's really hard to walk away. I spent six months in therapy trying to work up the courage one time. Going forward, you'll be able to make more informed decisions about what is right for you.

    There are a lot of ways to do polyamory. It takes two to define a relationship together. I'm a big fan of RA and ethical polyamory. With the right communication, everyone can get what they want and be a primary partner. I go out of my way to make sure I'm meeting the needs of the people I love.

  • TarantulaFudge@startrek.websitetoKDE@lemmy.kde.social•Amarok might be coming back in 2024
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    9 months ago

    I don't really want to use Amarok, I much prefer the notoriety and active support that strawberry has. I used Amarok for a long time and it died. I would much prefer contributions to strawberry be made. Maybe it can be revised or something. I'm certainly not waiting till end of 2024 for a buggy replacement of something that already works well. By all means contribute anywhere you liked but it seems like a duplication of effort