yeah i think Feinberg (writing mainly in the 90s) often uses the term “transgender” to describe “someone that has an unorthodox gender presentation” rather than “someone that identifies as a different gender than their birth assignment”.
nowadays we’d probably use the term “gender non-conforming” to discuss drag queens or butch lesbians or Joan of Arc, but we wouldn’t necessarily consider them trans
for me it’s a two-step process. the first step is fomenting anti-americanism - recognizing that the US is consistently the aggressor and engages constantly in imperialism and coups and sanctions and wars for profit. talk to her about whatever war crime of the week the Biden administration ends up doing in Iran or Venezuela.
the second step is recognizing that establishing a successful socialist project in such a hostile environment necessarily requires a workers state that oppresses the bourgeoisie.
i’d recommend Blackshirts and Reds or Parenti’s yellow video as easily digestible theory that drills those two key points
one last thing, i think the “class reductionism” you mentioned is arguably just as big of a problem. like a lot of people, she seems to have internalized a lot of racist US propaganda, about other countries and her own. help her address that too or she’s not a fucking comrade