Some men are so desparate for love from their male friends but can't handle the idea of showing any form of sincerity towards another man.
Instead of calling it love between male friends, respect becomes a currency for love and takes on some pretty toxic and abusive traits. Name calling, belittlement, insults, questionably aggressive forms of physical touch and more just to avoid giving a compliment or a hug.
That underlying love never gets expressed in a healthy way and you get the strange, hypocritical and mind breakingly confusing behaviour. Why do they hate everything about me but want me to go out for drinks after work tonight?
I think all this unaddressed love disguised as respect is more gay than the time I walked into the bathroom at a gay club and saw two guys giving another guy a blowjob.
Go give your buddy a hug, it ain't as gay as the 50th dick joke of the day that you have to say. Hell, it's not even lunch time yet, my dude.
I try to remind people that doing nothing is not a bad thing and something you can enjoy. Productivity can be quite addictive for some people. For others, it can be so ingrained into their mindset that they are driven by guilt to remain productive.
In a couple years from now when the sun finally decides to kill all life on earth for shit and giggles, all that progress and productivity won't mean anything. I'd rather chill the fuck out and enjoy the nice views with the people I like around me and I only have one life to do that.