I would add MonoclesChat as well, it's a fork of Conversations with some quality of life improvements. It's obviously thought to be used with the Monocles ecosystem, but works fine with whatever XMPP server ;)

I'm sorry, but I don't see how that's relevant to the point. If we make this analogy, with how the invasion of Iraq by the USA was bad, why should we treat the invasion of Ukraine by Russia differently?

I am honestly confused, so please don't take this too negatively, but it seems to me that you're making the point that what the USA did in Iraq was terrible (which I agree to), but using that as an argument that Ukraine should just take more or less the same treatment from Russia?