I'm not reducing people to their AGAB. Theyfab is a very specific term for people who are afab, and specifically exhibit transmisoginy based on the AGAB for transfemmes.

I don't usually like this term, but this awfully sounds like a 'theyfab'. Unfortunately it's very common for some non binary people to lean on the fact that they were afab, to misgender, belittle, and disrespect transfemmes.

I would recommend reducing/stopping friendly personal interaction to start, slowly moving to cold shoulder, and if possible, cutting off all non-work conversation.

Also, I know this must be very difficult to deal with. Sending you internet hugs 🫂