I have a arch and debian server. I am afraid of the arch server. Debian I haven't touched since install other than updatingbit once in a while.
You have experience of Debian use it, or maybe go down fedora, rocky for homelab. You would want to experiment on the homelab not with it.
Crocodile tears much.
I think it is more about rage control than about loving or hating oneself. Like stopping yourself from chucking the laptop halfway across the room when it doesn't boot because you misspelled a variable in a config file.
He worked for 80-90 hours and built Infosys. What does the common man working for Infosys get on working for 70 hours. Is he getting compensated well for it, is he getting bonus more than his colleagues for the dedication. Is he getting any guarantee that when the time comes for his retirement or suspension his dedication to the company would be considered.
If not then then stop modern slavery.
I have had two kernel regressions causing unbootable install. Though i still use Arch on my laptop. For the homelab I would go Debian.