I was kinda on a nostalgia trip and I stumbled on Jennifer Lopez's Waiting for Tonight, and it's basically about how she wants to fuck her partner. It could be more romantic in nature, and for some people it is, but looking at the repression in the West, it's very racy for its time.

But I ask: Why is it considered bad for straight men to want to listen to a song about how a woman wants to fuck? Volcel Pledge, notwithstanding.

I mean I know the answer is systemic misogyny, but like it doesn't even make sense?

It's so bizarre to me as a queer person attracted to men that men and boys are discouraged from listening to musicians who are women.

I'd have loved growing up with musicians I'm attracted to who were attracted to my gender.

I sorta want to explore this experience as an outsider, but I'm curious, what was that like? Did you listen to artists you liked in secret? How are your music tastes now? Any recommendations on music that feels different on a revisit?

  • Othello [comrade/them, love/loves]
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    11 months ago

    i was only allowed to listen to christian music as a kid and then i discovered pop music and would listen to it in secret and then ask god for forgiveness and promise him that it wouldn't effect me I just like to dance. it absolutely affected me, I watched katy perrys I kissed a girl music video everyday and cried to Born this way everyother day for reasons i would not contemplate. i look back at my middle school music taste and cringe, but I dont feel bad about it, the songs were fun and opened up my world in a big way. i listen to whatever was popular so I could stay relevant and kids wouldn't make fun of me. now I listen to a lot of kendrick lamar, megan thee stallion, the coup, doechii, hozier, mitski, regina spector, marina, phil ochs, (i USED to listen to lizzo before last week) and taylor swift if i need a good cry evermore and folklore hold up. and red has some bangers but i swear im not a swifty (anymore). and whatever spotfiy throws at me.