Like it's only so long until a user there posts a dumbass "Kick Tankies out of Lemmy" meme to try and start shit to get us defedded and hexbears take the bait immediately and pile on to tell them what a dumbass they are.
Like as dumb as the "death to NATO" being compared to "death to the people of NATO" stuff was, blahaj and hexbear are the largest queer instances and I quite like taking part in it and their trans communities, idk it's kinda nice to interact with people who don't have the same kind of hexbear brainrot where I see the words "pumpkin spice", "Maoist cult", "Soyfacing PMC radlib" or "rock stacking" and immediately start to go :sus: mentally, it feels refreshing to be able to talk to an incredibly queer positive community that doesn't have the same kind of internet poisoning as all of us. And it seems kind of assholy that some of the users here just don't give a shit and want to post and dunk until we get defedded by every instance, this isn't like lemmy.ca where they were all dicks that none of us liked anyway and were complaining about us doing hate speech against fucking landlords or lemm.ee where almost every time time a user from there pops their head into our threads here they say something racist or transphobic. iirc blahaj.zone was actually the second most requested instance to federate with in the pre federation discussions due to how good of a queer space it was.
Like their first defed thread was a complete embarrassment because there were a load of users there that actually had positive opinions towards us and then they saw the shitshow happening once from the post reaching active and changed to be way against us which tbh, fair enough.
Edit:
statements from the head mod Ada:
as sad as it makes me bc i really want more trans-positive spaces to lurk, i think you're probably 100% correct here
Think about it. She's lamenting all the hostility they get from most liberal instances, but clearly holds hexbear in contempt, and she defederated from us. Why would she prefer their company over us? We ARE the other big queer instances that she so hopes to find. It's a meme that trans girls are all communists, and I'm sure she knows it. This seems to me that she has a very active interest in stopping this. Why else would Nazis be less problematic than us?
I kinda wish we had a more general purpose trans comm on here. transenbyliberation is ok and all but id like just a word-for-word copy of trans circlejerk and traaa so we can spam reddit with those to get trans people on a more supportive platform
goddamn i didn't even get a chance to say i love this before it happened lol https://hexbear.net/c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns
idk if this was you or great minds just think alike but either way i'm thrilled.
it was me, i thought of it and then immediately acted on it, rare for me