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Also I hope people in here are decent about plurals. r/fakedisordercringe is another one of the "be normal debatebro-l" instances

  • JuneFall [none/use name]
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    10 months ago

    You expect that people and their feelings and how you refer to them and how they act is more or less constant. That the Julia you talked to 5 minutes ago is roughly the same as the one you talk to now. That this is true for years, too. It is not true in general, but especially not if DIS people act very different (and not in the way of mania) from one moment to the next.

    • robot_dog_with_gun [they/them]
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      10 months ago

      It is not true in general,

      sure it is, at least for acquaintances. we grow and change over time of course, but outside of trauma or radicalization that most people don't go through you're not going to observe those changes without being very close to someone. Trump is the same piece of shit he's always been for 50 years. my parents' neighbors are the same people with the same politics and general demeanor they had going back to my childhood (well, the ones who aren't dead or moved away).

      various coworkers, classmates, sports teammates etc never exhibited radical change outside of normative ranges of mood, and my friend who has bpd or whatever kinda just has a wider range. when i've had occasion to bump into people again they're presenting the same way as they always did, give or take two trans people.

      i reckon it's precisely the lack of this continuity that makes whatever dis/multiple whatever people seems scary or disturbing to neurotypicals.

      • JuneFall [none/use name]
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        10 months ago

        you're not going to observe those changes without being very close to someone.

        That part doesn't feel right for both plenty neurodivergent and especially people with DIS or alike.

        Though I agree that even plenty of neurodivergent are actually having a continuity which makes people feel in control (even if their mood swings are wide).

        • robot_dog_with_gun [they/them]
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          10 months ago

          i meant you're not going to observe NTs changing over time when it's not drastic unless they're close relations. the shifts that present from folks we medicalize as personality disorders are of course expressed more plainly.