• ilyenkov [she/her, they/them]
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    8 months ago

    I don't think you have to be particularly attractive to use dating apps. Like, I'm sure it helps, but I honestly think it's a skill issue for the most part. Like, on dating apps, a huuuuge amount of people's profiles have like three mediocre pics, and none of the info filled in, no bio, etc. That's just an auto swipe left. Even worse are the profiles where the bio is an active turn off. Like people whose bio is just like a misogynistic skreed. And those people, I assume, are ones who are the most vocal about dating apps not working for them.

    • the_kid
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      8 months ago

      I don't know. I've tried dating apps what feels like 100 times. I make a profile with the nicest pictures I have of myself, fill all the info in, and within a week or two I'll basically only have matches from people I have no interest in. then I get frustrated and delete the app.

      women have soo many options on these things, they're just not gonna ever go for me - a 5'4 guy with thinning hair and still in undergrad in his late 20s, lol.

      • Assian_Candor [comrade/them]
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        8 months ago

        I wonder if there’s tinder consultants out there that help you take good photos, write a good bio etc. Could probably make some good coin that way

        • the_kid
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          8 months ago

          let me know if you find one, lol

          • Assian_Candor [comrade/them]
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            8 months ago

            You got a spare 10 grand lol

            https://nypost.com/2021/09/20/this-nyc-online-dating-coach-costs-10000-heres-what-you-get/

              • Assian_Candor [comrade/them]
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                8 months ago

                People are wild. Honestly though a couple hundred bucks for professional photos and having a friend proofread a profile would likely go a long way.

                I’m so glad I don’t have to deal with these hell apps

      • ilyenkov [she/her, they/them]
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        8 months ago

        I'm bald in in my undergrad in my 30s. Don't be too hard on yourself.

        If you decide nobody is gonna go for you then delete the app, then yeah, not gonna work