• joaomarrom [he/him, comrade/them]
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    10 months ago

    Maybe your experience of dating apps is a reflection of the fact that you're more aware of your own needs and you figured out that dating apps are bad for you, where someone who is more persistent would have continued to persevere despite the negative impacts on them?

    I think this makes sense. What makes me feel particularly bad about Tinder is how you were treated as a huge weirdo (at least a couple years back, but still a bit now) if you were not actively swiping away, trying to get laid. I suppose this is a general feeling that I have, as someone with very low libido and who no longer drinks. If you're not drinking and/or fucking, you're doing things wrong.

    This is why I said I didn't know whether or not I should be glad that the popularity of Tinder is fading. For me, that's one less expectation that other people put on me (or maybe that's just my own twisted perception). For others, it's probably the end of something that actually brought them positive, meaningful relationships - I have two friends who have married their Tinder dates.