This is something I think I realized too late. I've made a lot of progress in my life in the past five years or so, but I honestly can't say I'm any more fulfilled than I was back then. Now I'm not in school and spend most of my time alone. I always hear people say "Oh go get a social hobby, go to bars, put yourself out there bro" but it's easier said than done. Most of the friendships I develop this way end up amounting to casual acquaintances at best. I have a few actual friends I made through work just by virtue of being around them constantly, but we still don't do that much stuff together. So I just never end up meeting that many new people on a regular basis. That's when I fall back to the apps, which suck for all the reasons everyone has described a billion times over.
It’s definitely a hard cycle to break. I’m graduating soon and it terrifies me - not because of adult responsibilities, but because I’ll likely never have the opportunities from school again. Sure, maybe college will not be “the best years of my life,” but it’s still a significant chunk of my life. I don’t want to begin living when I have to be worried about so many things. I have to start now, and if I fail, then hopefully I’ll be able to bring what I learn and experienced to form something better afterwards. I already hate being behind everyone socially, so I definitely don’t want to wait until I’m a full fledged adult and still mess up basic shit.
This is something I think I realized too late. I've made a lot of progress in my life in the past five years or so, but I honestly can't say I'm any more fulfilled than I was back then. Now I'm not in school and spend most of my time alone. I always hear people say "Oh go get a social hobby, go to bars, put yourself out there bro" but it's easier said than done. Most of the friendships I develop this way end up amounting to casual acquaintances at best. I have a few actual friends I made through work just by virtue of being around them constantly, but we still don't do that much stuff together. So I just never end up meeting that many new people on a regular basis. That's when I fall back to the apps, which suck for all the reasons everyone has described a billion times over.
It’s definitely a hard cycle to break. I’m graduating soon and it terrifies me - not because of adult responsibilities, but because I’ll likely never have the opportunities from school again. Sure, maybe college will not be “the best years of my life,” but it’s still a significant chunk of my life. I don’t want to begin living when I have to be worried about so many things. I have to start now, and if I fail, then hopefully I’ll be able to bring what I learn and experienced to form something better afterwards. I already hate being behind everyone socially, so I definitely don’t want to wait until I’m a full fledged adult and still mess up basic shit.