But even some progressive gay white men say they feel alienated from a movement they see becoming more radical, particularly online, where the tenor of conversation is often uncivil.
Hot take: I'm honestly, vocally sick of settler-gay men who demand that you handle them with kid gloves when their entire existence within the community is an existence blanketed in microaggression at best, when they're not being outright full-on macroaggressive about someone that 'doesn't fit their "preference"'; and I'm genuinely glad people are starting to talk about it.
This is probably a very specific form of discrimination but I've seen much more hatred towards pan people like myself from gay and lesbian people, even bi people, than from cishet people. That's probably because homophobes don't bother to learn what pansexuality is, but it's very upsetting to me to have seen fellow queer people throw me under the bus because they think I'm 'looking for attention" or whatever.
To me, being pansexual means I'm attracted to people regardless of their gender, and being bisexual means I'm attracted to all genders. It's a small difference to people who aren't bi or pan but to me it's very important. So seeing queer people say that I don't fit in with them just makes me feel awful.