omfg i just had to google what tme means and jfc is the entire discourse around that term fucked and full of reflexive attempts to reconstruct the failing gender binary. To make matters worse, i looked into a reddit thread on the subject and realized that in the few months off that heelsite, i had lost all sense of scale for how smug and insufferable redditors are and how confident they can be a in their knowledge of a subject they know less than nothing about. I mean, i had remembered that i hate these dweebs, but i had literally forgotten how capable that site is of bringing out the absolute worst in people. Fuck that place. Anyway:

I'm lowkey a political lesbian realistically

Mood, but how does that have anything to do with somebody being on testosterone or not? I was on testosterone up until a little over a year ago, that didn't make me a man in any way. My FWB is pre HRT, i have not once struggled to see her as a woman, and there hasn't been a single moment in the three months that we've been playdating were i thought "she treats me like a man does" or "she's acting like a dude rn". Not once. And i should know what i'm talking about, i've dated enough men in the past, i've seen enough straight relationships and gay male relationships to know how guys can act both when they're at their best and when they're at their worst. And that's not how my gal pal or any other pre HRT transfem i've ever met act. Yes, i'm certain her moods and some of her behaviors will change once she can go on E, i know how much the stuff does and how it affects our psychology, but it will not make her a different person, she'll just be the same wonderful, compassionate, elegant, kind and cute catgirl she is already, but happier with herself.

And when your partner has had such a complicated relationship with gender and with being on T, why'd you assume that having been on T in the past is a problem in any way? T isn't this magic juice that completely controls your behavior, that's bioessentialist, biodeterminist bs and you should confront and challenge such ideas if you carry them around with you.