Hello Polyam Comrades 
Hopefully your week is starting off well! Sorry for not posting over the holidays, my brain wasn't functional enough to do it, but here we are back at it in the new year. To help foster a safe and inclusive space for polaymory discussion, we wanted to provide weekly discussion topics! The goal is that we share our stories and our experiences, listen to each other, provide safe space for each other, and learn from each other. Please ask questions and provide answers in good faith only, let's be the wonderful communicators I know we all are.
This week's discussion topic is: Ask That Burning Question You Have!
Maybe you're new to polyamory and are unsure about something and need some clarifications, maybe you've seen polyamory in a movie and are wondering if that's how it really is, maybe you're a polyam pro but need a suggestion for a better calendar app than google calendar to manage your various polycule schedules (this is me someone please help me I'm overwhelmed by my google calendar right now I've got like pod's pods on there and it's not helpful anymore).
Please feel free to use this thread to suggest future discussion topics as well, ideas you have to foster a better community, or feedback you have about the community.
Yeah fortunately I have a number of queer sexual health experts in my broader community so I am able to have real conversations with folks that would be difficult to have outside of the community. And it's easy for them to recommend doctors to me that actually understand what is going on. If there's one thing I have learned over the years (and your post definitely exemplifies!) is that the Western medical community is almost solely focused on AMAB folks. The fact that HPV tests exist and are accurate but are nearly impossible to get in the US is beyond ridiculous. It's a critical piece of information that is just inaccessible to people. I didn't know about HSV impacting immunocompromised people, so that's good to know. I've had people ask me why I bother even communicating that I possibly have it, and I always just tell them that I don't know everyones body and want people to make informed decisions for themselves. But now I have an even more concrete reason so thank you. Sexual health being such a taboo that even something as simple as testing being impossible is bullshit shaming behavior. Society needs to move past it so we can have real conversations and do real research on this stuff and get real answers that everyone agrees on. It shouldn't be as hard as it is!
Anyway thanks for sharing your perspective on it too!