what even is 'masculinity' or 'femininity' it seems like arbitrary aesthetic categories at this point, i want to have breasts and long hair and a less boxy body, and also wear practical clothing with pockets and still be an emotionally unstable insecure weirdo obsessed with mecha and tanks and jets and parkour and martial arts. i'm still going to be a dork who wants to be a Good Person Who Does The Right Thing no matter what i am. i see a lot of presumed and implied definitions of 'masculine' and 'feminine' that seem wayyyyyy gender essentialist to me in this thread, like every time i put my interests aside for someone else its feminine? since when? everyone i know does that sometimes, everyone i know does the opposite too. soldiers have always put their interests aside for someone else (unless they were the leadership lol) and they were mostly men and its considered very masculine profession. is every woman who stands up for themselves 'masculine'? are we going to invalidate people's identities every time they are more dominant or submissive than usual?