• mar_k [he/him]
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    4 months ago

    gen z's not sexless, i think the rate of virginity in young people is just significantly higher than the past. like there's a study from 2015 saying "40% of college students are virgins" and it's gotta be even higher now

    i think it's mostly young people being shy, alienated, and/or averse to hookup culture and the commodification of sex. like i'm a sophomore and got it with someone i really liked, but rn am giving dating a break until i have the schedule and mental availability for it. fucking someone at a party or from the swipe of an app just seems kind of depressing.

    from my experience gen z is simultaneously pretty sex positive and virginity positive. people don't really slut shame, and you're not an outcast for not getting laid (was it embarrassing to be a 20 year old virgin in like the 90s/00s?). WAP is just a good example of us not being prudish tbh, people saw it as fun or funny and it was a tiktok dance trend

    • Enver_McTim [he/him]
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      4 months ago

      gen z is simultaneously pretty sex positive and virginity positive

      Boomers:

      "Women who sleep around and wear crop tops and short shorts are wh*res with no self-respect, your body is a temple"

      "Young people today are sexless losers who spend all day their phone, when I was in high school half my class got drunk and gave each other chlamydia"

    • PM_ME_YOUR_FOUCAULTS [he/him, they/them]
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      4 months ago

      was it embarrassing to be a 20 year old virgin in like the 90s/00s?

      Extremely. But also I think it was more common than people would have assumed

    • RoabeArt [he/him]
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      4 months ago

      My mom always complains about how the media pushes sex on kids nowadays, forgetting all those teen movies and TV shows from her generation (genX) that depicted sex as a high school rite of passage, and virgins as pariahs and losers.

    • redtea@lemmygrad.ml
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      4 months ago

      There are lots of stories nowadays about young people being scared shitless of having kids and there's one way to be sure that doesn't happen. That could be a factor, too. Particularly for those for whom college is barely affordable. That expense makes it difficult to go out much at all, nevermind dates. TV and culture hasn't changed that much for gen z, which still says that you have to spend money/have a car/live on your own to be worthy of dating.