Like them playing animal crossing or whatever, reading the character text aloud and then reacting like they're full-on having a conversation? They are framed as though playing the game in real time, but it's clear that they're reacting to a video of playing. It feels like watching someone play dolls or something and I can't stand it.

They're reacting to it like the characters are real. The YouTuber might talk about some of their own lives every now and then, but it all just feels so empty and I'm having a hard time understanding what the appeal is.

My partner loves these kinds of videos and I'm trying to figure out what it is about them that people like. Is there some comfort to them that I'm not getting?

  • sappho [she/her]
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    9 months ago

    I think it's interesting that you have such a noticeable discomfort with this sort of thing. I really mean this genuinely and not in a snarky way. If I were in your shoes I'd explore it more, because I've personally learned lots about myself from looking closely at my own odd pet peeves. You might have complicated feelings relating to play or performance. Your issue with him not seeming sincere doesn't make a lot of sense in my head because, of course, play is acting. It's pretending. It's performing. So it's always in a sense insincere, but also, simultaneously, very sincere in that the play-actor is wholeheartedly entering into this imaginal space. Maybe he's a bad actor, but the intention itself is there, or he wouldn't be doing it at all.

    • Magician [he/him, they/them]
      hexagon
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      9 months ago

      That's a good point about the sincerity of play, and I think exploring this discomfort is important for me to figure out. I didn't want to wrap up my partner in intellectualizing something they enjoy and I think I can start reflecting on the discomfort in feeling. And thanks for using the word discomfort, that was a more accurate feeling than what I was conveying.