Fuck off. Seriously. Eat all of my shit.

Come back to me when you're an afab enby or a trans man, and then you can talk about how it feels to be emasculated.

I've been made to feel like a fucking piece of trash for showing any masculinity my entire life, except I never even had a word for it, because for someone born without a dick, emasculation is norm.

You don't know shit about shit.

  • Angel [any]
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    3 months ago

    I fucking hate cishet women who do this shit too.

    I knew this younger cis woman who was enraged that men these days are "not masculine enough" and it makes her harder to date because she wants to be a "tradwife".

    It's especially toxic because she'd start judging men for being feminine when it came to really irrelevant things like drinking coffee with a straw. I wish I were joking.

    Also, as far as those cis men go, to them, "emasculating men" literally just means "Don't be toxic and misogynistic.". Nobody cares if you're masc or not as long as you're not a total dick in the process, but unfortunately, people who express these sentiments are never anything but dicks. Fitting.

    Sorry to hear about people disrespecting your transmasculinity. That shit is unbearable. "Well-meaning" cis allies engage in this shit too, and it hurts even worse when it's behind a mask of performativity.

    Wishing you all the best, comrade.

    • Dirt_Owl [comrade/them, they/them]
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      3 months ago

      I knew this younger cis woman who was enraged that men these days are "not masculine enough" and it makes her harder to date because she wants to be a "tradwife".

      It's especially toxic because she'd start judging men for being feminine when it came to really irrelevant things like drinking coffee with a straw. I wish I were joking.

      She sounds awful. I once worked with a dude who had long hair, and all the other guys would give him shit for it.

      Funny thing was, he looked great with long hair, I dunno what those guys were smoking.

      But yeah, gender roles are fucking dumb. I wish people could just be who they want without this pressure.

      • Angel [any]
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        3 months ago

        You know, funny story about being male with long hair.

        My grandparents were on a video call with my younger cousin. He's somewhere in the 11 to 13 age range right now. I can't quite remember because I haven't interacted with him in ages.

        His hair is longer than my grandmother's, and they were all going on about how "handsome" he looked and how much they loved his long hair and what not.

        When they got off the call with him, they were like, "He needs to get a haircut. That long hair makes him look too much like a girl!".

        Mind you, quite obviously, my grandparents are viscerally transphobic and religious, and I had to cut them out over that, so it adds up.