Oh my. It seems like a shitload of otherwise progressive people have no qualms about the idea of a traditional marriage and the man retaining most of the control by default.
This makes me very uncomfortable because I have met some women who have internalized this idea (idk is it that patriarchy or am I overreacting?) which is just so weird to me.
Like, you’re a left-leaning person up until the point where you’re happy to be in a relationship with a cishet man who controls you now. This is society I guess 🤷♂️
i mean as you explain it that's patriarchy and everyone has it acculturated in them to some extent, and aren't going to be 100% feminist 100% of the time
but a lot of people have strange relationship dynamics that can map onto cishet standards without that necessarily being a coerced toxic thing. e.g. one partner being the dominant cook because they like it, if the cook is a woman that looks like a cishet thing, but the division of labor & norms beyond that category can be totally different.