I actually have a somewhat serious question about this. I know a guy who had a really bland and boring surname so when he got married he took his wife's name. The thing is, she's from an ethnic minority and he is not. Am I wrong to think it's weird for a white person to change their name to a minority one but not the other way around? A Huang changing their name to Smith feels normal but a Smith changing their name to Huang just feels appropriationy.
I actually have a somewhat serious question about this. I know a guy who had a really bland and boring surname so when he got married he took his wife's name. The thing is, she's from an ethnic minority and he is not. Am I wrong to think it's weird for a white person to change their name to a minority one but not the other way around? A Huang changing their name to Smith feels normal but a Smith changing their name to Huang just feels appropriationy.
Maybe the reason you think that is internalised normalisation of whiteness though
You're probably right. Normal was also a really poor choice of word.
wow.. uhh... "normal" is something you might want to examine there