yea, i get really brainwormy about my friends not caring about me enough as their romantic partners. doesn't help that every single fucking time a friend of mine gets a romantic partner they suddenly never want to spend any time with me anymore. cos it's totally normalized in society that you should prioritize romantic partners so heavily, ugh.

im ace but not aro, and i've stayed in toxic relationships for way too long just because of the fear of not being important to anyone if im not in a relationship