This happens to me when I rarely open up Facebook. I'd see someone I was obsessing over in the 10s, and now I just wonder what I was ever feeling with them. It's not like something happened and they're massively different, they're more or less the same. Really the world changed a lot and I'm not the 
I used to be.
I'm not dating anyone new now. But if I had to judge someone as hot, they would have many of the following characteristics:
- left of some soft (Marxist, Anarchist, hell I'll date a decent socdem)
- mask wearing
- vegan
- high empathy, worry about the suffering of others
- reader
- actively organising something in their community
To be honest, I had a pretty basic taste in dates back in the day. If anything, this should be a self-crit.
At the grocery store a few days ago I saw a girl I liked in high school. She had been one of the best students and was really nice. She’s some kind of naturopathic doctor now and was, like almost everyone there, unmasked. I pretended that I hadn’t seen her.
Another girl I liked was also nice and an excellent student. She now has the ADL on her résumé and is not Jewish. Thankfully I haven’t seen her since high school. I only found out about her involvement with the ADL because I googled her once.
A third similar girl I was obsessed with for years got a Ph.D, married a Spanish astrophysicist, and moved to Germany. I ran into her a few years ago and we had some nice conversations.
I am also completely surrounded by liberals and chuds. My spouse is a staunch anti-communist but masks, is okay with Free Palestine and landback, is to the left of Bernie, wants to travel to Cuba, is open to living in China, is a unionized nurse, has no interest in voting for Biden, and is super hot. Most Americans would consider her a communist if she described her political beliefs. But she thinks it’s okay to be a landlord. If I were single, I think I’d be happy with someone who at least identified as a communist.