Not to say that one mustn't date outside their social class. But it feels like it causes stress with expectations and the cultural differences. The poorer partner will have more responsibilities with taking care of family, and possibly more day to day stress, which the posher partner might not be able to have any empathy for. It seems like richer people do leisure better, and I often hear the richer partner complain that "my gf/bf doesn't do anything". Well they don't have the material ability to kite surf or travel internationally. Seeing each other's respective living spaces can be a shock for someone who's used to a settler level of comfort.
I've definitely dated quite well off people in the past, and it didn't go well. One woman used to insist on showing me her paystub every fortnight?? Another guy would take me to posh restaurants but then get paranoid we'd be seen. Not to say that I'm perfect, I definitely used to look for people with similar degree levels when I was dating.
More power to those that can transcend it all. Sometimes it feels like only the super rich can do it well, as they can just buy the other partner's parents a new home and make all the problems go away with money.
Communism would make dating easier.
I'm guessing that white dudes in Asia are worse than at home??
This is enough to make me hate someone, although I'm not judging you for having a convo with them. I'm just old now, and have no patience anymore. Tbh I was a lot like you in my twenties.
I want to say that it's impossible to accept the facts that you're part of an imperialist project when you're actively benefiting from it. This has just been my experience. I've have these convos hundreds of times, and the best result would be that the posh person gets uncomfortable and tries to change the subject.
I'm 36 and travelling with other people. I'm not giving the rude people both barrels from day one simply because I don't want to make a scene. I want to enjoy myself and starting fights is going to wind me up. But equally if these subjects come up in conversation I'm not shying away from them.
Comrade, I'd do the exact same thing you would, even at my crotchety old age. You're not being blamed for not telling everyone off. Just be wary of those people burning you out, that's all.