this is what happens when your dominant gender-class predicates their self worth on "owning" others through sex instead of viewing it as a fun thing you can do
"I find you sexually attractive exclusively due to the emotional and romantic connection, not because of your physical attractiveness" is not a compliment of someone's physical attractiveness. Wanting to be perceived as physically attractive is not controlling and patriarchal.
Like yeah, that's the significantly more reasonable and sane part of the reaction, and my comment is definitely too harsh. But if it wasn't for the controlling element than the boyfriend could just say that, but because they have to be In Control all the time they can't admit weakness even if normal people know it's actually standing up for yourself
this is what happens when your dominant gender-class predicates their self worth on "owning" others through sex instead of viewing it as a fun thing you can do
"I find you sexually attractive exclusively due to the emotional and romantic connection, not because of your physical attractiveness" is not a compliment of someone's physical attractiveness. Wanting to be perceived as physically attractive is not controlling and patriarchal.
Like yeah, that's the significantly more reasonable and sane part of the reaction, and my comment is definitely too harsh. But if it wasn't for the controlling element than the boyfriend could just say that, but because they have to be In Control all the time they can't admit weakness even if normal people know it's actually standing up for yourself