I can't help but think that a lot of resentment from guys who aren't getting laid comes from society's notion that if you can't or don't get sex, it means you're a lesser human being and that makes it okay for others to hurt you. In that position, I could easily see a man resenting women as the gatekeepers of his full humanity, and that by not having sex with him, they're depriving him of it. It's very similar to some angry thoughts I had when I was younger, and in a worse timeline it's entirely possible I could've fully plunged into that same cesspit.
That isn't to justify any of the awful shit that incels say and do, of course - many reactionaries lay blame in the wrong place for very real problems they face - but I feel there has to be a connection there.
For women
For men
System functioning as intended.
Men are supposed to get laid as much as possible while at the same time feeemales are shamed for "high body count." YET ALSO if a feeemale turns down a man wanting to increase his high score, she is frigid and worse.
Non-falsifiable orthodoxy but for misogyny be like
Yes, men do get shamed too, for absurd shit like "being too nice to a feeemale" which is seen as "simping." Are the cishets okay?
It's one of those insults that reveals the inner ugliness of the person who uses it. "Oh, you're being decent to a woman? You must be after sex, because I can't imagine any other possible motivation for doing such a thing!"
I don't think they are tbh ✨
No. It took me a very long time to figure out how I could "defile" someone I loved. The answer of course was to reject the framing, but that was a tough nut to crack as teen/tween. After that I still had to unprogram a lot of misogyny before I was able to start dating.
Yeah that’s where the impossible standard comes in. Outwardly it’s a gender neutral policy but in practice it’s only for women, so young men get left with cognitive dissonance on it.