And it has all kinds of implications and context and shit.
How the fuck am I supposed to tell what's just people doing things at random and what's a part of all-singing-all-dancing-shit-show the neurotypicals call "social norms"? Down with NTs.
Honestly while it's really fucking annoying that refusal to participate could result in some silly neuronormo interpreting a completely innocuous action as an offense, and it can cut you off from social shit, I think it's basically the only way. The same button never does the same thing twice. Screeching rn.
God this one happened to me and I only realized the fumble I'd made like two years after the fact 'cause she was like. The homie, we'd often take our breaks and hit the smoke pit at the same time, one time when she'd gone back home for a holiday, she actually brought me back a jar of apple pie moonshine because I'd mentioned never knowing shiners who flavored their stuff-- I just thought she was one of the most considerate besties I'd ever had.
Never mind the fact that I know what tattoos she has and exactly where they are, I just thought she was the homie. Been kickin' myself ever since.