Looks like my account was banned/restricted for the above interaction, have already sent the mods on world an email asking if they'd be willing to reverse that. Had an episode of psychosis a few months ago where I did say some offensive stuff, (understandably) got a 3 month ban on .lol for that, so could see my account having been flagged.

I uh, I don’t think it’s reasonable to expect people to check others profiles to ensure we are correctly pronouning them… when making a throw away comment that is less than 10 words involving a ludicrously common saying. Jerboa does not show users pronouns. I could switch to an app that DOES show the pronouns, do any Lemmings have a recommendation for a free Lemmy mobile app that has that feature?

Edit: Edie chimed in, Jerboa does show pronouns. It's a formatting issue with mobile vs browser (She has them on individual text lines so they don't appear on mobile).

Was just going to respond to the user in question to let them know I wasn't purposefully trying to offend that individual, to discover I'm not able to post or make comments on world now, so figured I'd see what y'alls opinion on the matter is.

  • Are_Euclidding_Me [e/em/eir]
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    2 months ago

    This is deeply shitty. If you're right that >80% of people on Lemmy are men (I'm not sure I buy that), then it's even worse to assume everyone is a man. What you're doing is chasing off the already extremely outnumbered non-men. If you want this place to be welcoming to people who aren't men, then you need to change your behavior.

      • UlyssesT
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        2 months ago

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        • Zoot@reddthat.com
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          2 months ago

          Right right, which is why a good majority of instances have entirely defederated from hexbear.

          Is it me who's in the terrible instance that most people hate? No, no, it must be that they are all the hated people!

            • Zoot@reddthat.com
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              2 months ago

              Yeah no, hexbear is simply an awful place to go which gets closer and closer to a echo chamber every day. But do keep on telling people to have some introspection without any yourself.

              • REgon [they/them]
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                2 months ago

                > calls hexbear an echo chamber

                > applauds instances for defederating it

                > talks about introspection

              • UlyssesT
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                2 months ago

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          • UlyssesT
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            2 months ago

            deleted by creator

      • BzQ [she/her]@lemmy.ml
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        2 months ago

        It's sexist because you assume male to be the default, just like the assumption that white is the default skin color is racist. The behavior outlined by the user above you follows from this thinking. Driving non-men away is a result of this behavior, which is the result of the sexist attitude that it's okay to assume everyone online (or on Lemmy) is a man.

        The only people driven away by eir comment are misogynists.

      • REgon [they/them]
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        2 months ago

        If that comment would chase you away, then I think it would be good for you to be chased away