my entire life, everyone has been telling me that I sound like an asshole, no matter how much kindness and care I try to add to the things that I'm saying
"You think you're better than us" (I super don't)
"You think you know everything" (absolutely do not)
genuinely have never understood how this tone has been added to everything I ever say, but this has been a consistent complaint of other people since I was a child, so obviously it's a thing that I'm putting out but not meaning to
My voice is completely monotone and I also encounter accusations of assholery because of it.
My therapist has shown me that it's my monotone voice; my non-existent body language; and my size that makes people mistenterpret my intentions and I've been working at the parts that I can fix for the last few years.
Somehow, it's SIGNIFICANTLY worse when I speak Spanish
my entire life, everyone has been telling me that I sound like an asshole, no matter how much kindness and care I try to add to the things that I'm saying
"You think you're better than us" (I super don't)
"You think you know everything" (absolutely do not)
genuinely have never understood how this tone has been added to everything I ever say, but this has been a consistent complaint of other people since I was a child, so obviously it's a thing that I'm putting out but not meaning to
My voice is completely monotone and I also encounter accusations of assholery because of it.
My therapist has shown me that it's my monotone voice; my non-existent body language; and my size that makes people mistenterpret my intentions and I've been working at the parts that I can fix for the last few years.
Somehow, it's SIGNIFICANTLY worse when I speak Spanish