Lenin met his wife while organizing. And goodness forbid that people ever feel uncomfortable. Uncomfortable is part of life, though its different when people's safety could be at risk.
sure, when people are in a relationship the main issue is just other people's discomfort, but i have found that the real problems lie in the breakup that happens. i have seen entire organizations crumble over a single nasty breakup because of the ensuing polarization that happens when that drama gets in the way of all the professionalism and organizing. for that reason, i've always found it bad practice and a little selfish to date within orgs.
Obviously feeling uncomfortable for that is different than for organizing. The quickest way to be viewed as a fuck-up is to attempt to date within an organization (regardless if that is activism or work or something else)
Lenin met his wife while organizing. And goodness forbid that people ever feel uncomfortable. Uncomfortable is part of life, though its different when people's safety could be at risk.
sure, when people are in a relationship the main issue is just other people's discomfort, but i have found that the real problems lie in the breakup that happens. i have seen entire organizations crumble over a single nasty breakup because of the ensuing polarization that happens when that drama gets in the way of all the professionalism and organizing. for that reason, i've always found it bad practice and a little selfish to date within orgs.
That type of experience definitely sucks, I'm sorry that's happened.
Obviously feeling uncomfortable for that is different than for organizing. The quickest way to be viewed as a fuck-up is to attempt to date within an organization (regardless if that is activism or work or something else)