Why is not being alone in the universe a bad thing though?

There are possible concerns relating to the Fermi paradox. Perhaps there aren't many space faring civilizations because the most advance civilization exterminates others that they see as a potential threat.

But yeah, I also find it comforting to know our existence really isn't that big a deal lol. It just makes me feel like we should do what we can to get the most joy out of our lives while we're here