After seeing some threads it's clear that there are chapos here who need a mentor in the romantic arts (tm). Pitch me your best Q's and I'll spit my best A's.

I've been a professional dating coach and matchmaker for the last 6 years.

edit: Wrapped up for now. Thanks everyone and good luck out there, you can do it!

  • KarlMarxOfLove [love/loves]
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    3 years ago

    A common mistake I see from leftists is tendency-specific requirements. Basically anyone who is at least progressive is worth dating. If things work out they'll likely move further left over time.

    This doesn't mean you hide your political beliefs, but talking about murdering landlords is probably best for at least after the third date. You need to establish you're not going to kill the person and wear their skin as a suit before speaking of the necessity of revolutionary violence against the rich.

      • KarlMarxOfLove [love/loves]
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        3 years ago

        Essentially yes. Once they know you're good in the sack, showing off your gun collection is less weird.

        Best case scenario, they're already a commie, but if you stick to only that then you're severely limiting yourself in the imperial core.

        • MaoTheLawn [any, any]
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          3 years ago

          Damn. I needed to hear this. It's just so infuriating chatting with a progressively minded lib that's all about civility. I just click so much better with people who are already dirtbag left like.

          • KarlMarxOfLove [love/loves]
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            3 years ago

            Getting them away from that mindset is less difficult than you'd suspect, but it takes time and you have to be okay with the possibility they may never change their views.

            Still, dating a Progressive who shares most of your core values is definitely worth a shot.

      • KarlMarxOfLove [love/loves]
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        3 years ago

        Women have to deal with a lot of horrible bullshit that men cannot even begin to imagine.

      • KarlMarxOfLove [love/loves]
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        3 years ago

        Totally valid reason as well. Safety is one of the most important things you can have in a relationship.