After seeing some threads it's clear that there are chapos here who need a mentor in the romantic arts (tm). Pitch me your best Q's and I'll spit my best A's.
I've been a professional dating coach and matchmaker for the last 6 years.
edit: Wrapped up for now. Thanks everyone and good luck out there, you can do it!
Yeah, so I need to reverse my approach. I'm a pretty direct person but I try to be very nice with my directness about letting dudes down.
Already got mace, but I appreciate the advice.
No one in our polycule goes looking for group sex, just happens sometimes. Not the sort to seek it out, because the power dynamic is really fucked up that way.
I guess I worry I tell people too early? Or it might be easier when I'm actually married, because I can say "my wife" instead of "my fianceé" and not have people assume I'm a minion for a dude unicorn hunting before I can explain