I've had the same bullshit over alcohol abuse. it feels like you're being called a child who can't be trusted with the grown ups stuff and so has to sit out because you're a liability to yourself. for some people, that might be true, but I'm an adult and should be allowed to make that choice for myself, and have that be supported so I can find the way I want to live and have that life work for me, not the puritanical demands of others