"literally taking away the self-identity of entire groups of people” , “phobic of literally anyone who feels any amount of romantic attraction”
Romance and sexuality are tied up in my head, and while that’s definitely because of problematic social norms, it isn’t something that’s going to go away. That’s part of my identity now, and while I can express those attractions and attempt to manage it in a healthy way saying they don’t exist doesn’t help. I don’t want to take anything away from you, and your identity is valid. Just please respect mine and understand that it’s real even though it’s based in made up concepts.
Alright, so those are brain worms you need to work through instead of acknowledging and forming an identity around them to then claim that I'm attempting to attack and dethrone your entire identity as a romantic attraction experiencer.
"I have some brainworms about gender but those are part of my identity now. You just have to acknowledge and respect that my identity as a Removed Hater is valid too. Please respect my beliefs." See how this sounds?
You're literally victimizing yourself over an aromantic person existing and challenging your amatonormative beliefs, going as far as to claim that I'm being "allophobic", which is about the same as a trans person being "cisphobic". You're the majority. If you're so confident romantic attraction exists, this should be nothing for you. It shouldn't be this. You should just be able to look at me, laugh and maybe shrug, then go about your day.
Leslie Feinberg called gender "the poetry each of us makes out of the language we are taught." Gender isn't "d+mb", we all have gender. This is another example of the above where it's not gender that is inherently bad or needs abolishing but its toxic roles and aspects in our society, that is what we critique. But maybe this is a conversation for a different time.
Alright, so those are brain worms you need to work through instead of acknowledging and forming an identity around them to then claim that I'm attempting to attack and dethrone your entire identity as a romantic attraction experiencer.
"I have some brainworms about gender but those are part of my identity now. You just have to acknowledge and respect that my identity as a Removed Hater is valid too. Please respect my beliefs." See how this sounds?
You're literally victimizing yourself over an aromantic person existing and challenging your amatonormative beliefs, going as far as to claim that I'm being "allophobic", which is about the same as a trans person being "cisphobic". You're the majority. If you're so confident romantic attraction exists, this should be nothing for you. It shouldn't be this. You should just be able to look at me, laugh and maybe shrug, then go about your day.
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Leslie Feinberg called gender "the poetry each of us makes out of the language we are taught." Gender isn't "d+mb", we all have gender. This is another example of the above where it's not gender that is inherently bad or needs abolishing but its toxic roles and aspects in our society, that is what we critique. But maybe this is a conversation for a different time.
We most certainly do not all have gender :hexbear-agender:
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Please disengage from this. The conversation is no longer productive.