Hello neurodivergent comrades and allied neurotypical comrades! This month's mega-thread is all about interior design.
If you want to talk about something related to this month's theme but can’t think of anything to say, then here’s some questions to try and answer to get you started:
- How important is interior design to you?
- How much thought/effort do you put into the look of personal space?
- What are some elements of interior design you like, and/or what are some elements you dislike?
- Does your neurodivergence effect how you experience/interact with interior design?
As always, feel free to completely ignore the theme and post what you want! We’re just happy to have you!
Previous Thread: Megathread #11: Animation
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Alt tl:dr: "To indulge in irresponsible criticism in private instead of actively putting forward one's suggestions to the organization. To say nothing to people to their faces but to gossip behind their backs, or to say nothing at a meeting but to gossip afterwards. To show no regard at all for the principles of collective life but to follow one's own inclination. This is a second type [of liberalism]." - Mao Zedong
I have two headmates (headspaces if you prefer), one of which is more logical and practical, with the other being more emotional and expressive. I've always been extremely indecisive and prone to overthinking, but lately I've found that the trick to making decisions is to just let the side that's less suited to the task have the final say. For example I was buying a laptop and comparing specs and prices and they were all close to the same, so I just deferred to my other half and they're just like, "Ooh, get that one, it's cute and blue!" Often, the framing of the decision and the options that are within the realm of consideration are more important than the decision itself, and being attentive to all the factors is great for framing a problem, but can easily lead to getting too overwhelmed with variables to actually make a decision.