Holy shit, comrades. I had no idea. This explains so fucking much. Thank you, thank you, thank you to the comrades like @ReadFanon@hexbear.net and @FourteenEyes@hexbear.net and others who have mentioned the book on this site.

There are some traits I don't share (are there any dealbreakers that would disqualify me as autistic?), but for the ones I do have, they fit exactly. Price, in the conclusion, talking about sleeping on an air mattress and refusing to buy furniture - that's been me. Same with all of the food issues they talk about. Same with . . . etc. Goddammit. How did I not know? Do I know now? What do I do now? I'm already on disability so I don't know that I need to go through the diagnosis process.

  • Wertheimer [any]
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    10 months ago

    And I took those points to be basically him saying "this part is about your autistic and other ND friends" and it helped me better understand them.

    Yes. There's one friend in particular with whom I share several eccentricities, but we clash sometimes because our systems for dealing with the world are occasionally incompatible. I thought of them a great deal while reading this and they've promised to read it soon - I expect it will really strengthen our friendship.

    • roux [he/him, they/them]
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      10 months ago

      It was this for me with my wife. Like I mentioned, she has ADHD and I got the Autism. But like I am all about systems, routine, lists, organization, order, etc(which is why I am trying to get into IT/Data Analysis since I think I would excel there) but she has yet to find a method that will keep her from losing her keys. I didn't realize it until I was reading through this book but like sometimes our functioning(or lack there of) just end up clashing. It's even caused arguments between us. She is now on chapter 6 but I really wanted her to read it for a few reasons and one was the amount of comparing and contrasting between several of the disorders he covers. I saw a lot of her when he covered ADHD, which is kind of crazy because it wasn't that long ago that I assumed ADHD was just hyperactive and inability to focus. I had no idea that Inattentive ADHD existed, which I think is what she has.

      • Wertheimer [any]
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        10 months ago

        Last night I was rereading a bunch of threads in this comm, including your post where you talked about this book and specifically about Divergent Design. It sounds like a promising way to resolve antinomies.

        • roux [he/him, they/them]
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          10 months ago

          Coolio. We got some heavy cleaning to do but then after that or during that we are gonna start focusing on Divergent Design, especially for her. She has more clutter spaces than I have organized spaces so I really wanna figure out a system that will work for her.