People keep telling me I only deal in absolutes, and that it's unhealthy and I should sometimes find the middle-ground between two different positions. (I.e. caring for myself vs others, putting all my energy on a task vs not even bothering)
So what's the procedure to finding a middle-ground so I can apply it to literally everything in my life, as the Autistic Gods demand? \s
Hopefully I'm not focusing too much on a specific example, but do you feel like if you agreed to go to a party, and later found that you don't enjoy it, you wouldn't be allowed to change your mind, like people wouldn't be understanding if you left, or the person who gave you a ride wouldn't be willing to bring you home? I used to be much more rigid in trying new things especially because i felt like i couldn't make people understand what my issues with those things actually were, so it was simpler and more effective to just shake my head no.