Last year, Taylor's ex-boyfriend Matty Healy went on Adam Friedland's podcast and made inappropriate racist jokes about Ice Spice. That lead to Ice Spice becoming friends with Taylor. They released a song together. Now they're at the super bowl together.
I'm still not sure about who knew what, and when, but this is some quality sleuthing
thanks! credit goes to the tic tok swifties though, i simply retain an insane amount of pop culture info because i love drama.